The Reality and Roots of Gay-on-Gay Violence and ‘Gay Men’s Obsession with Sex,’ in One Homosexual Writer’s Words

“For young gay men…[the] urge for sex is strong, compulsive and obsessive. It dominates conscious thought with lustful fantasies which society does not grant expression without censure and judgement. For many gay men, a salient goal of life is to fulfill their sex fantasies and achieve some sort of intimacy with other men. …We seek intrigue and danger in our sexual netherworld. The threat of HIV infection may even nurture these yearnings. The greater the danger, the greater the thrill. Our masculine ideal is of strong, fearless men willing to inflict pain, aloof to suffering, and undaunted by sin. Virility is immortal, masculinity ever powerful and everlasting…Though the reality is often ugly, scarred, sordid and stupid, we willingly cower in the presence of that ersatz ideal, submit to its potency, genuflecting and suckling at the font of another man’s virility while scorning our own. Sometimes the power is fully consummated. I daresay there isn’t a gay man of 50 who doesn’t know of at least one friend murdered at the hands of a ‘trick’ [sexual hook-up]…Yet, as we survive each anonymous act, we only move farther away from the goal. We find no intimacy, fulfill no male ideal, and only confirm our deep-seated self-loathing….” –Garey Lambert, homosexual writer, “AIDS activist,” and editor of [homosexual newspaper] Baltimore Alternative, 1993

Ad for homosexual FLEX bathhouse in Atlanta–where men go for anonymous deviant sexual encounters with other men. (We’ve blocked the address and web site.) It is telling that such de facto perversion centers thrive in Atlanta, home to the U.S. Centers for Disease Control–which, though tasked with fighting the spread of HIV, refuses to push for closure of sex businesses that encourage “gay” hyper-promiscuity. The late homosexual writer Garey Lambert described how and why “gay” men are compulsively drawn to reckless, anonymous sexual encounters, which can be dangerous and even lethal. He wrote, “I daresay there isn’t a gay man of 50 who doesn’t know of at least one friend murdered at the hands of a [sexual] ‘trick.'”

[Warning: graphic language]

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There is a way which seems right to a man,
But its end is the way of death.

—Proverbs 14:12 (NASB)

Dear Readers,

This is the side of homosexualism that the secular-minded chattering classes–in their zeal to normalize sodomy as an innocuous identity and mere “orientation”–choose to avoid. Below is a verbatim reprinting of a column written two decades ago in the now-defunct homosexual newspaper, The Baltimore Alternative. I recently rediscovered this in the Americans For Truth archives. It is dated “1993” but the copy of the article does not give the month and date (we will attempt to find that). The writer is the late Garey Lambert, an “AIDS activist” and former editor at the Alternative, who died of AIDS at age 49 in 1996. This piece is a fascinating look into the the “consuming depravity” of homosexualism, to quote Pastor Ralph Ovadal–and of the overpowering lustful quests that motivate “men who have sex with men,” and which in all too many cases drive them to an early grave.

Reading the essay, I am reminded of how, even as much as AFTAH tries to convey the debauched, confused and destructive reality of homosexuality, we have only skimmed the surface. What is at work here is a type of indulged sexual addiction I have difficulty understanding. Let the astonishing words below sink in; obviously, “gay” men are endangered more by their own obsessive sexual pursuits with strangers than by any kind of anti-homosexual “hate” violence:

“I daresay there isn’t a gay man of 50 who doesn’t know of at least one friend murdered at the hands of a ‘trick’ [sexual hook-up] .“

Writings like this expose the “enslavement” (Lambert’s word) of male homosexual lust–and the same-sex desperation that seems to result from libidinous young men pursuing the wrong answer to their own masculinity crisis. LGBT ideologues will attempt to explain away Lambert’s observations–or claim they are made obsolete by the “domestication” of homosexuality (e.g., same-sex “marriage”). But he describes a root problem–emotional and spiritual–that cannot be cured by politics, or “pride.” (Note Lambert’s obligatory attempt to blame “society” and “parents” for the plight of homosexuals and the proper judgment of homosexuality as abnormal and wrong.)

As Christians and concerned friends, we must offer men (and women) trapped in the sin of homosexuality a way out–through the forgiveness and power of Jesus Christ and a loving relationship with our Heavenly Father. We can also point those broken, addictive men who are open to healthy change to counseling by those who have been there--men like ex-“gay” therapist Christopher Doyle, David Kyle Foster and Stephen Black [see Foster’s outstanding video interview with Black]. Yet sadly, many people engaged in homosexual behavior recoil at religion (which often does not equate with a true relationship with Jesus) as the force of condemnation and judgment. Many are comfortably reprobate, closed off to God. Meanwhile, LGBT activist hacks like Wayne Besen spend their lives maliciously mocking and demonizing ex-homosexual overcomers.  [Another ex-“gay” we recommend is Dean Bailey; go HERE to purchase Bailey’s book, Beyond the Shades of Gray: Because Homosexuality Is a Symptom, Not a Solution.]

It also should be noted that since the publication of this very frank exploration into the deviant yearnings of homosexual men, the “opportunities” for homosexual hyper-promiscuity have only grown. “Gay” bathhouses, where men go for indiscriminate, anonymous and degrading sexual encounters, are flourishing and operate in most major cities–as if the AIDS plague that killed hundreds of thousands of homosexual men never occurred. “Grindr” and various other “gay cruising” phone apps enable instantaneous sodomitic hook-ups using GPS technology–literally identifying the sex target by how many feet away he is! (To call this way of living shallow dishonors the word shallow.) In New York City and surely elsewhere, homosexual men can choose from an array of shockingly vile weekly orgy parties that similarly facilitate disease-spreading sodomies. And despite decades of pro-condom advocacy to stop the spread of HIV, condomless “bareback” sex among homosexual men is tolerated and marketed as a “gay” porn option. In response to these excesses, the politically correct CDC does nothing–or worse, blathers on about “homophobia” and “stigma.” (See advertisement above for a 24/7 homosexual bathhouse in the CDC’s home city of Atlanta.)

By making homosexual sodomy so easily accessible, the “gay” movement and its liberal allies are complicit in exacerbating and enabling the escalating health crisis rooted in the pernicious cravings described below. Surely, with HIV and STD rates rising among young homosexual men (and teenage boys), at the very least U.S. public policy should focus on reigning in the out-of-control “gay” male sex industry. How many more millions of lives and eternal destinies will be destroyed by men and boys pursuing the fleshly idol of homosexual encounters rather than the truly manly ideal, established by their Creator, of uniting with a woman in marriage to create a natural family? (Please forgive the vulgarity below but I do not want to whitewash this in any way.) — Peter LaBarbera, AFTAH.org

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Verbatim text, Baltimore Alternative, 1993 [month and date not provided]

Back Room Sex

By GAREY LAMBERT

The Alternative [1993]

“I shall not know peace until he makes love to me, but only when he enters me and then lets me stretch out on my side across his thighs, holding me the way the dad Jesus is held in a Pieta.” — Jean Genet from Querelle

The “back rooms” are back. In bars in cities across the country, gay men, especially young men, are tying to revive the exuberant decadence of the seventies when back rooms flourished and anonymous sex was de rigueur. Only one thing is different: HIV.

A handsome young man of 22 years comes into the AIDS Action Baltimore office seeking help. He is lithe and supple under his fashionable clothes. His arms are bronzed and shapely. His well-formed chest juts proudly over his flat belly and slim waist. his demeanor is more teenager than adult, swaggering and cozy but not yet confident. He is nervous, anxiously trying to cover his tremulous fear with insouciance and insolence. The agitated speech of his changed, but not quite mature voice, falters. He fears rejection even here.

He came out [as homosexual] just a couple of years ago, he says. He had a troubled adolescence. He left home to get away from his family which doesn’t know he’s gay. A friend took him to his first gay bar. He felt as if he had come home. He sucked his first cock in the bar’s back room. He lost his waiter’s job because he got real sick some months ago and couldn’t work. A doctor told him he ought to get an HIV test. It came back positive. He never thought it would happen to him. Here, at the beginning of his life, he must face his mortality.

For young gay men, it seem always to have been this way. The urge for sex is strong, compulsive and obsessive. It dominates conscious thought with lustful fantasies which society does not grant expression without censure and judgement. For many gay men, a salient goal of life is to fulfill their sex fantasies and achieve some sort of intimacy with other men.  The quest is our art, implicit in the works of John Rechy, Jean Genet, Tom of Finland, Jose Villarubia, David Drake, William Burroughs, Edmund White, Robert Mapplethorpe, and Oscar Wilde. That those illusory ideals are doomed to frustration does not diminish the power of their attraction, even, it seems, when the consummation of the act itself falls so far sort of the fantasy.

There are sound reasons for gay men’s obsession with sex. Heterosexual men don’t grow up struggling with their sexuality. Gay men do. They are told by society and by their own parents that their sexual urges are unnatural and repugnant. Straight boys are encouraged to “sow a few wild oats” before being encumbered with marriage and adult responsibility. Gay men are told that their sexual tendencies must be repressed for they are evil, disgusting. While promiscuity and sexual conquests for straight boys are talismans of masculinity, for gay boys their mere attraction to males is castigated as unmanly, anathema to society. So must gay men, whether in the closet or out, struggle their whole lives with acceptance of their sexuality and their masculinity. Many seem never to overcome those feelings of self hate, inadequacy and impotence so deeply impressed upon them in childhood.

Do we compensate by being more masculine, more promiscuous, more sexual? Perhaps. Yet, while we struggle so desperately to overcome the challenges to our sexuality and accept ourselves, we seem compelled to confirm the worst of the feelings we harbor and cannot reconcile. We yearn for intimacy and acceptance, yet we cruise the parks for [sexual] “trade,” submitting willing to our oppressors.

We seek intrigue and danger in our sexual netherworld. The threat of HIV infection may even nurture these yearnings. The greater the danger, the greater the thrill. Our masculine ideal is of strong, fearless men willing to inflict pain, aloof to suffering, and undaunted by sin. Virility is immortal, masculinity ever powerful and everlasting. The anonymous gods of our fantasies never age, and within their powerful chests and dominant pricks hold over us the power of life and death. Our images are fraught with the aura of evil, for the power fo men over other men is only to take life not to give it. Though the reality is often ugly, scarred, sordid and stupid, we willingly cower in the presence of that ersatz ideal, submit to its potency, genuflecting and suckling at the font of another man’s virility while scorning our own. Sometimes the power is fully consummated. I daresay there isn’t a gay man of 50 who doesn’t know of at least one friend murdered at the hands of a “trick” [sexual hook-up].

Yes, as we survive each anonymous act, we only move father away from the goal. We find no intimacy, fulfill no male ideal, and only confirm our deep-seated self-loathing. If we get AIDS, it is only what we deserve. Yet, the more we fall short of the mark, the more avidly we pursue it.

With AIDS, the morality of our sexual cravings is brought into graver doubt. Promiscuous sex was all right before HIV, people say, but now it is immoral. Indeed, moral strictures often evolve more as practical responses to social conditions rather than from religious or philosophical dogma. Many historians argue that present day moral proscriptions against promiscuity actually began with the medieval syphilis plagues in Europe. If so, the new morality didn’t do much good. Syphilis is still a threat a thousand years later.

So, too, with AIDS. Despite all reason and all warnings of danger, gay men still pursue other men for sex, especially young gay men in search of their identities. We must understand their quest and forgive them for their misadventures. They are, after all, seeking what all gay men have sought and continue to pursue. We must keep trying to educate them to the risks of AIDS. But we must recognize that we will not stop the death until we can control HIV, or until gay men find salvation from our enslavement.